If you’ve been hanging around the personal development world at all recently, you’ll know it’s a bit of a buzz word out there right now.
But it’s SO MUCH MORE than a buzz word. It’s actually a really important factor in figuring out who we are as people, what makes us tick, what lights us up, and what we should be doing with our time.
Now, just for the record, in this post, alignment is all about purpose and living a meaningful life, in accordance with your own values, needs and wants. We’re not talking today about the biomechanical alignment of your body parts (though that’s just as important! This is another reason I love the concept of alignment – you get double the bang for your buck with this one little word.
I often see that poor life alignment is “the missing link” for many people. Sometimes, even when everything is “going right” in our lives and we seem to “have it all” with a coveted job, gorgeous partner, happy kids, beautiful home, solid nutrition, great movement habits and focused mindset, we can still feel like something is missing. We can still be unhappy, miserable, anxious, frustrated, even angry. And then of course there’s the guilt. “I have so much, why am I still unhappy? I shouldn’t be so ungrateful, I should try harder to be happy.”
It’s really quite frustrating because outwardly there doesn’t seem to be anything wrong – but we still have that gut feeling that something isn’t quite right. It can often come down to living a life that isn’t in alignment with your core values as a person, and which doesn’t provide you with meaning or fulfilment. It’s something that’s difficult to truly understand, until you start to really dig deep into your own heart and soul, and figure out what you truly WANT out of life, and what truly FEELS right for you, both physically and mentally.
In OT speak, we call this “Meaningful Occupation” – doing the things and roles that are meaningful, purposeful and enjoyable to the individual. In personal development land, they call it alignment. It’s one and the same.
I recently caught up with the wonderful Soli Goodes, Dream Life Coach and owner of Business Goddess to talk all about alignment. This interview was recorded as a bonus feature for the participants in my Busy Woman’s Stress Makeover program, but again I’ve decided to share it for free with everyone. I’m so excited to bring this interview to you as we had so much fun recording it. Honestly, we could have sat there for a couple of hours chatting away, but we’ve done you a favour and kept it to around 20 minutes!
Soli Goodes, Dream Life Coach and director of www.businessgoddess.com.au
In the interview we talk about:
What alignment is
How to tell if you’re living a life out of alignment
How to get back on track to being IN alignment
So grab yourself a juice or a cuppa and get comfy to have a listen. And don’t forget to let us know what you think, either in the comments, or on the Bloom Wellbeing facebook page.
Until next time, keep well and live your best life.
Why are women so stressed? Why are we getting sicker and sicker? Why are adrenal fatigue, anxiety and depression at an all time high? Why do we now face a concept known as “Rushing Women’s Syndrome”.
Why is the current state of women’s health so poor, when we have more resources than ever to supposedly keep us healthy?
It’s a difficult question to answer and there are so many variables for every woman experiencing overwhelming stress and dysfunction. But there are a few common threads, and in this interview, fellow Occupational Therapist, Jac Edser, and I have a candid discussion about what we see in our practices on a regular basis.
Occupational Therapists, Jac Edser (left) and Sarah Hausler.
Here’s just a few of the topics we cover in this discussion:
Why there is a global stress epidemic facing women at this current time
Why women are more susceptible to stress than men
How the desire to “have it all” has contributed to our stress epidemic
Why the feminist movement has been both friend and foe
How we can be more in tune with our “feminine power” and utilise this, rather than trying to create more “masculine” energies which can create stress
The link between physical and emotional wellbeing
How we can learn to “listen to our bodies” to help attain optimal physical and emotional wellbeing.
Have a listen below, and don’t forget to let me know what you think of our chat. Did you have any “Aha!” moments. Did it confirm some of your gut feelings about your own life? Or do you disagree completely?
Wow! Can you believe it’s the last day in November! Yes, tomorrow officially marks the start of the crazy, hectic, silly season month we know as DECEMBER. Bah – bah – bahhhhh!!!!
Are you ready for it? Got the Christmas shopping done? Arranged the meal plan for Christmas day? Booked the caravan park for your Boxing Day getaway? Put in your Christmas leave form yet?
There’s always so much to do at this time of year. Family functions to endure. A million parties to dress up for. School concerts to attend. Kindy graduations. The list goes on.
It’s also a really, REALLY expensive time of year (at least it can be). All that primping and those new outfits for all those parties can add up!! Though if you’re like me you just give up on shopping for new threads and hope and pray you can still squeeze into last year’s party dress! Am I right?
Put all this together and what do you get?
All wrapped up in shiny Christmas paper with a red bow on top. A great big parcel of stress. More unwanted than that foot-spa hubby got you last Christmas.
Stress is huge for many people this time of year, which is why I’ve created this totally FREE four part video mini training series “De-stress for December”.
It’s four of my favourite little strategies for letting go of stress, and allowing yourself to have a stress-free, enjoyable holiday season.
Check it out on YouTube and get ready to relax these holidays!
ps. If you liked this video series, you really should check out my four week online stress management program, the Busy Woman’s Stress Makeover. It’s just $89 and it will lead you through an entire body-mind-soul stress transformation!
I often start my stress management presentations with this phrase:
“Stress is actually our friend”.
Now let me tell you, lots of people are thrown by that comment. I see plenty of rolled eyes and raised eyebrows, usually mixed with an acerbic “Hmph! Yeah, right”. Actually, I’m quite surprised I haven’t been told to “eff off” yet. Lucky we live in a civilised society!
But it’s true. Stress, in its purest evolutionary form, actually IS our friend.
Take the well-worn “cavewoman vs sabre tooth tiger” analogy. We need to be “stressed” when that big cat pounces on us, because we need the enormous physiological boost the “fight or flight response” provides. We need the blood to drain from our non-essential organs, such as our uterus or large intestine, and flood our heart and leg muscles, to help us run like the clappers across the savannah and make our escape!
Because that’s what the stress response is designed for – to help our body physiologically prepare for those times we need to fight or flight.
So it translates over into modern life too – the stress response works wonders when we’re caught in an exceptional circumstance. Think everyday Mums somehow lifting a crashed car single-handedly to free their trapped child, or that mad dash you made to the Sass and Bide section of Myer during last years Boxing Day sale. In these situations we don’t want to be kept wanting, we NEED the physical boost of the stress response in this moment.
So hell yeah, stress is totally our friend.
But the stress response is only our friend as long as we’re its friend. And as with most friends, it doesn’t like being taken advantage of.
Sure, it’s more than happy to help out every now and then. But once you start demanding too much of it, say relying on it to meet every deadline, run for every bus, and get you to 13 different extracurricular activities for your kids on time, every single week – it starts to get fed up.
Eventually you wear out your stress-friend’s reserves, and the time will come when she’s simply not there for you anymore. That’s it. You’ve depleted her and you’re on your own honey!
That’s what’s known as adrenal fatigue. And that’s no fun. Just ask anyone who’s been there.
So in summary, no, you probably don’t want stress as your BFF.
But she makes a damn fine “In Case of Emergency” contact – use her only when you must!