So you want to be a Mumpreneur? The top six questions to ask yourself before you take the leap.

So you want to be a Mumpreneur? The top six questions to ask yourself before you take the leap.

Psst. Wanna be a Mumpreneur? Want to live the ultimate lifestyle and work on your own terms? Want to set your own flexible hours so you create your business around your kids and never miss another Book Week parade or Sports Day? Yeah, I know you do. We all do.

And it’s so tempting right? It’s so tempting to tell your crappy, insensitive boss to “Shove it! I’m outta here and I’m going to open my own business!”

Yeah, go sister! Woman power! Mums can do anything!! Whooohooo!

But hold on a sec there honey. Do you really know what you’re getting yourself in for? Do you really understand what it means to be a woman, who also has children, who also happens to run her own business from the kitchen table? (and who may or may not also have to hold down a regular “dayjob” while she gets this Mumpreneur thing off the ground). By the way – I’m not a huge fan of the word “Mumpreneur – but I’m using it here because “woman, who also has children, who also happens to run her own business from the kitchen table” doesn’t quite have the same SEO ranking. (And don’t worry, if you don’t yet know what SEO is, you will soon!)

I’m not saying don’t do it. Don’t become a “Mumpreneur”. I can’t say that, because I’m doing it right now – and you know what – it is great. And I can see amazing things on the road ahead. But right now. About 12 months into my self-employed sojourn. It’s freaking hard. And it’s an awful lot of work. And it’s costing money. And, and, and – so much else.

Mumpreneur in action. Yes, this is what action looks like sometimes.

Mumpreneur in action. Yes, this is what action looks like sometimes.

In these past 12 months I’ve learned a thing or two about running my own business while simultaneously raising two daughters, running a household and, yes, holding down another part time job to ensure we can still pay the mortgage! So I thought I’d do you a favour and list a few very important questions you should ask yourself if you’re thinking of making this big scary, crazy, amazing leap into Mumpreneur-dom.

Here goes.

 

Question 1: Is my significant other on board?

Because if he (or she) isn’t, strap yourself in for some drama. Cue arguments about “getting a real job” and “stuffing around on facebook isn’t going to make any money” and “no, we’re not spending $6K on a business coach”. Starting a business is a crazy tough slog, it’s no surprise so many start up businesses fail. If you’re serious about starting a business it’s going to take time, money and sacrifice. You’re going to need the support of your partner, because you’re going to need them to pick up the slack around the house. You’re going to need them to be okay with the fact that they’re doing the dishes for the sixth night in a row because you’re tapping away on the laptop trying to figure out how to install a WordPress theme to your blog. You’re going to need them to be okay with the fact that you won’t have as much time for them anymore – at least not right now. Get them on board early. Explain your passion. Share your plans and goals. Keep them involved. And hopefully they’ll be supportive.

 

Question 2: Am I prepared to resent my children at times.

Gah! Yes. I did just ask this question. Please stop calling me names.

This is the dirty little secret of Mumpreneur-ship. Because as much as you love your precious little cherubs and think to yourself, “I’m creating this new business for them, for us, to create our dream family life”. I absolutely guarantee that you are going to resent the socks off of them at least once while creating your new business (probably more than once, to be perfectly honest). Perhaps it’ll be the night before your big launch/meeting/presentation – when your teething baby keeps you up all night. Or the day you miss an all-important webinar because you’re cleaning blue paint-coloured poop off the carpet at the exact moment it goes live. (True story, not mine, thankfully!!)

The fact is that young children and start-up businesses don’t mesh nicely. They’re both unpredictable, time consuming, and, yes, frustrating. When you’re starting a business there are going to be days when you simply need to “GET STUFF DONE” no matter what. But guess what, you can’t always rely on your children to be perfect angels on those days. Even if you have childcare and supportive family, you’re still going to have to find time to do work at home – and the kidlets under your feet are going to get in the way. There are going to be days when you want to spend more time on your business than you do on your kids. You will feel like this. And you will feel guilty for feeling like this. Are you prepared for that?

 

Question 3: Am I prepared for the haters, the trolls and the poppy-loppers?

Not everyone is going to think your business is a great idea. Lots of them will try to dissuade you – “Don’t you know how bad the economy is, why on earth would you start a business now?” The thing is, these peeps are generally well meaning, they honestly just want you to be safe and secure, and not broke and homeless. They just have a completely different mindset and view of life than you. So they’re not as bad as the haters, the ones who will try to tear you down any opportunity they can. Why do they do it? Mostly they’re jealous. Maybe they want the kind of life and business you’re working towards. Maybe they just don’t have the guts to take that leap of faith. That makes them feel shit. So they take it out on you. #hatersgonnahate

 

Question 4: Am I prepared to replace most of my friendship group with another one entirely?

The truth is, I now spend way, WAY more time with my new business gals (who I didn’t even know a year ago) than I do the best friends I’ve had for 20 years. Starting your own business can be seriously isolating. Not a lot of people do it, and it’s scary and intense and there’s sooooo much to learn. So we business chicks have to stick together – we seek others out so we can network, learn, brainstorm and absorb business advice by osmosis. Most new Mumpreneurs figure that out pretty quickly and start surrounding themselves with other business minded folk. This isn’t to say that you won’t, or can’t, ever see your friends again, but just beware that friendships are likely to change. See question 1 and 3 for prime examples! Plus, because of all the extra work hours you’re putting in – it can often be quite hard to find time for all your friends – you’ll start prioritising them. Sad but true. The good news is, the ones who are really, truly your friends. They’ll stick around. They’ll stand by you. They’ll understand when you haven’t spoken for them for the past two months. Because that’s what TRUE friends do. (ps, for the record, I still love my old friends even if we don’t get to see each other as often – you know who you are!)

 

Question 5: Am I in it for passion or profit?

Really you need to be in it for both. If you’re not passionate about the business you’re trying to build, you’re simply not going to have the motivation to stick with it.
But you also need to want to make money. Which means you physically need an income stream – ie. you have to have something to sell!

But you also need to believe that you’re worth the money, that you deserve to make money and that your product is valuable enough for people to pay you for it. So really, you need three things: Passion. Profit. And a passion FOR profit.

 

Question 6: Am I ready to be transformed?

This is probably THE MOST IMPORTANT question of them all.

“Am I ready for a complete soul makeover?”

This is what you don’t think about when you’re first starting out. You just think to yourself, “Oh I’ve got a cool idea for a business, let’s start a blog and make some money”. You never think to yourself, “Gee, I feel like undergoing a complete and utter transformation of my personal and professional development, my mind, heart, body and soul, my view on the world, my belief in the concept of abundance and laws of attraction, my self-concept of who I am as a person and what my true calling and purpose in life are.”

No-one ever thinks that.

But that’s what happens. I’ve met so many amazing entrepreneurial women over the past year while I’ve been building my business. And while they come from all different walks of life, run completely different businesses and are at a million different stages of business growth and development – they all have one thing in common. Change. They’ve all undergone somewhat of a transformation. Some to the point where they barely recognise themselves from the person they once were. Some to the point where they’ve realised that they need to leave their husband because they’re not willing to put up with a sub-par relationship anymore. Some to the point where they’ve lost friendships because their old friends either “don’t get them” anymore, or got too shitty that they weren’t available for Friday night drinks every week anymore.

Are you willing to go there? Are you willing to make that much of a change. Are you willing to be utterly and absolutely transformed. Are you prepared to barely recognised the person you’ll be in 12 months time?

Yes?

Then welcome to the club.

 

Blooming Mama Tribe

Blooming Mama Tribe

I’ve been talking A LOT lately about the need for Mums to have a tribe. A group of women they can go to for support, advice, understanding, debriefing. Being a Mum is a tough gig. I’ve said it before and it remains true. Personally, I am so fortunate to have a whole tribe of amazing women in my life, many of whom I have only met, or found online, since I had my own children, and I’m keen to introduce them all to you.

So here it is – The Blooming Mama Tribe. These are the women who I look to for advice, support, understanding, when I need to let off some steam or just feel like catching up for a cuppa. Some of these women I’m lucky enough to consider my closest friends, some of them are part of my online tribe, who I’ve never met in person but who have been integral in my motherhood journey. And as the months go on, I’m hoping to get some of the big guns on here – some of my top hit-list women, the ones I’ve never met or even emailed, but who have inspired me for their knowledge and the message they are getting out into the world. Watch this space….

 

Today, I’m starting with a super-special tribe member – my amazing co-host on the Well Fuelled Woman podcast – Shani Prideaux.

As a holistic health coach, personal trainer and director of her own business The Fuel Focus, and mum to two gorgeous kidlets, Shani certainly has a lot on her plate.

From dance-battling her kids home from school, to smashing her personal training clients in the gym, to uncovering hidden health problems for her coaching clients – this lady is the epitome of a Well Fuelled Woman. She is passion, drive and determination all balled up into one little pocket sized bundle of energy. Read on for her interview – and just try to keep up…

 

Bloom Wellbeing: What does being “well” mean to you?

Shani: It means LOVING myself so much that I can’t help but be really conscious and plugged into all my choices 80% of the time. I follow the 80/20 rule. If I’m happy, well, moving and eating to benefit my mind and body, sleeping, living with passion and purpose 80% of the time, I can handle the 20% that isn’t optimal.

In other words, I’m not perfect, I don’t want to be, I want to SHOW my babies my reality. Which is pretty darn amazing 80% of the time, at least!

That means eating well, eating fresh, moving everyday, they come too, they are often at the gym with me, training too, we cook, we shop together, they even come to coaching appointments sometimes, my daughter especially loves it. She could probably tell most people where they’re going wrong. We meditate, do kiddie yoga in our lounge room.

 

BW: Have you always lived a healthy and active life, or have you had a long journey to where you are now?

Shani: Big journey! I had a great start, mum was really health conscious and I had a problem with having seizures – Mum refused to medicate me and we began working with a naturopath.

I was pretty sporty, netball and equestrian – pretty good too.

I am a hairdresser by trade and travelled in my early twenties, when I fell off the wagon in a big way, eating and drinking my way around Oz. When we came home we fell pregnant with our eldest and our whole world changed!

She was born and at a week old was very sick from a virus, it attacked every organ in her body and she had viral myo-carditis (swollen heart muscle). A long journey and open heart surgery. Five long months later we brought home our medically fragile baby, who had a sketchy prognosis! Mumma bear was on it! With help from my Mum and others, we set out to rid her of every toxic drug and substance we could and I got real educated about nutrition and Organic farming. We healed her with food!

Interestingly, probably due to money mainly, we didn’t eat half as well as her!

When she was 2 and 4 months we had her brother and at the time we were kind of homeless, our house was un-liveable due to an oil leak (I know right) it was deemed unsafe and toxic and at 37 weeks pregnant we were living in a hotel!

Anyway, to cut it short, I had an aha! She was noticing EVERYTHING, I was breastfeeding, stressed, isolated, living away from my home and support network. NOW is probably the time that I NEED to be well… omg lightbulb!

I knew what to do, I’d learnt all about it for Peyton (and she was starting to reject my efforts, coz you guessed it, I wasn’t role modelling it)

So I did. I dropped a bunch of weight and slowly, but surely, began my love affair with feeling good, the better I felt, the happier the kids were.

I began teaching group fitness (mainly so that I had to turn up, it was completely selfish) but over time I wanted more and more skills, I wanted to know more about how to help people feel better.

Now I’m obsessed with learning new things and relaying them to people who can benefit.

Shani: Then and now.

Shani: Then and now.

 

BW: Your children have obviously been a big part of your health journey, but how else has being a Mum changed your life?

Shani:  Nothing happens by accident, thank goodness my baby got sick! I have so much admiration and love for that child, she saved us! Literally! She came into this world with a clear and vivid gift, which she shares readily, showing you yourself! It’s amazing, her intuition and conviction on what she ‘knows’ is amazing.

It wasn’t by accident that she was sick, it was to show us what could be done and now it’s our job to show others what can be done. She’s a miracle.

My boy is also this fascinating, light filled bundle of insight and joy. He’s my joker and my partner in crime to make s*&t happen, I love it!

If anyone suggests or even thinks about something fun to do or create, or have a go at, he’s on it!

What a great quality!

They drive me! They make me feel like I’m capable of anything. The pair of them have such unfaltering faith in me, that I can’t not be inspired everyday.

They are so great, they’re patient when I need them to be, if I have presentation deadlines or coaching calls or need to teach at the gym . But the second I’ve had a gut-full, they’re right there to tickle and laugh some life back into me! They can brush their teeth and get dressed in two seconds flat because I’ve decided to go ‘do something’ and they’re like little puppy dogs excited to see what it will be…

The best! I’m truly blessed!

Her inspiration

Shani’s inspiration – her kids.

 

BW: I know you have a really holistic approach to health, fitness and wellbeing, and you’re passionate about getting the RIGHT information out to your clients – what are the major misconceptions you come across in this industry?

Ugh, so much! Dogma is my biggest issue. People trust us as health professionals and many, many abuse that trust by perpetuating their own agenda.

Everything works! For someone! Just definitely not for everyone.

We need to learn to trust ourselves and how we FEEL more than what someone tells us to do, or what they did. That doesn’t mean don’t try it, it means listen to your body talking.

Did you know Dr Atkins died of a heart attack? Yet his products are everywhere! Low carb diet has had MASSIVE world wide success and so it should, lots of people do well on low carb! Bars, shakes, powders and pills is NOT what Dr Atkins learnt kept people healthy in the villiages he studied. It’s marketing, money making and riding on coat tails at it’s finest.

I’d really love for the one message people take away from that little rant is to just stop for a second and assess. Even if there is some merit to the theory I’m reading, is what I’m being sold here the same as the original intention?

If you’re standing in a store whilst asking this question, looking at a product, chances are likely to be no.

There are many reputable, objective, holistic health coaches like myself around. Use us if you need guidance… but only if their objective is aligned with helping you to not need them for long.

Because that’s my other pet peeve, (and we were taught it in PT school) don’t give your client too much info, make them need you, they need to not know what to do without you… BS! Even if I’m coaching someone multiple times per week I’m not with them more than they are with themselves, for success to yield success, we must TEACH and empower!!! It flows on.

BW: Finally, if you could give just one piece of advice to all the Mums out there – what would it be?

Monkey see, Monkey do. PLEASE don’t put off making time for yourself. Being selfish is being selfless! It is THE way to help your children.

They see health, they see love, they see passion and vitality and then they want to be those things.

And… ‘No’ is love, sometimes they want things that aren’t best for the greater good, their health, happiness etc. No is love!

Every time they ask for something you have a teaching opportunity.

80/20 rule, my kids know it. If it’s over 20% you are doing them a disservice and that is not love.

 

 

WHOOOOHOOO!! What do you think? I really hope the passion Shani lives with has come across in this interview, because she truly does live her truth. If you’d like to know more about Shani and her business, check out The Fuel Focus, or listen in to our Well Fuelled Woman podcast.

Until next time – Be well.

S xx